Positivity.....what does it means?
What is positivity?
Positivity is about being NICE & KIND with a SMILE to yourself and others. That sounds like a big order when you break the words down. Here is how and why I live my life with positivity.
Firstly it is not always possible to be positive, as life happens and sometimes these are accompanied by uncomfortable thoughts or feelings. Having BPD, you would think I would be able to handle the ups and downs by now. But it still throws me from time to time.
I have found that I had quite a few triggers for my BPD. But I am now acutely aware of why? and how and I can even feel them coming now. This helps so I can decide to either feel the feelings or change the feelings. I have been processing these thoughts and feelings with a counsellor and now I am able to think about certain things from my past without the huge empty feelings, feelings of anger and resentment,that were attached. Negative feelings I was holding about my past.
How and why? be NICE
Why be NICE?
Being NICE is not just about actually just being NICE, being NICE the positivity way means being.
Realising that we all have judgmental thoughts and they are normal is step one, they are there to protect us. But sometimes these initial thoughts and judgments are wrong. Realising that they are judgments is the second step. Remember then, that they are thoughts not facts. Try to understand the other persons perspectice. Do you share the same values? If not could this be a reason you are judging them. Learning to understand other people is a huge step towards breaking stigma.
Inspire others, by telling your story, sharing your story and how you have overcome lifes problem could save someone,or inspire them to create something, your story could also highlight a problem that needs solving and inspire someone to tackle it.
Be creative with your thinking, think out of the box, read between the lines. Be creative to entertain and educate. Be creative to make some money. Be creative to help you heal. Being creative can help you forget your problems for a while.
Be Educational means be ready to learn and grow, to share positivity. I am currently working on all the background stuff. But there will be a "Positivity Programme". It is the road to positivity, it will help you in many ways.
How and why? be KIND
Being KIND the positivity way is about being.
Make sure that you know what your talking about. Please don't say things that are not true. Even if, it is to make Positivity sound good. I believe Positivity can speak for itself. If your starting a channel or site, maybe an online shop. Try to know as much as you can about your subject.
I believe in equality, I believe that no one is better than anyone else. We are all people on this earth, we need to get along. You see, the way I see it, we all need each other. I am no better than anyone else. I believe we should not judge people. We should learn to understand them. If you really need help and are willing to help yourself, then we will not turn you away. It doesn't matter where your from, what colour your skin is or what religious beliefs you have. We believe in humanity.
We are non toxic, which means we will not be rude, or abuse you. We are like the caring mother, who is strict but fair. You see being so nice, has it's bad points. The evil in this world take the bleep. They have used me and abused me. So being non toxic is about fighting for equality and fairness. Without violence and name calling or being mean. I have had enough of evil and bad, so I surround myself with positivity.
Sometimes our problems can lead to bad thoughts and feelings. Sometimes these feelings and thoughts can get out of hand and become a problem themselves. In this case we would suggest distraction. Either by creating something, supporting someone, educating yourself, surfing the web. We only advise distraction for a while as you can distract your life away.
How and why? SMILE
Smiling is infectious, sometimes a smile can brighten someone's day. But SMILE to us is much more, it is about.
Sharing your experience could save someone, help someone learn something they just can't get, it could give someone inspiration, to try something they have been scared to do or try. It is also part of the healing process. But let's share the good times as well as the bad. Celebrate the small things as well as the big.
I was always told, a problem shared is a problem halved. I tried this so many times in the past. Sharing a problem with someone, who said they were my friend. They then used this against me in some way, or told everyone else. Sometimes it's hard to know who to trust. That's why I believe in honesty. I believe we can help you solve your problems. It can be as confidential as you want it to be.
Become an expert on you. It takes a lot of soul searching but it has helped me so much. When we have found the problem, we can solve it. We can brain storm, until we find something that will work. If it doesn't, we don't give up until the problem is solved.
Life is a journey, we need to continue learning all the time in order to grow. I am ready to learn whatever I need to, in my pursuit of Positivity.
If Plan A works, that's great, but could it have gone better? If so how? If plan A doesn't work though, we need to see why, plus we don't wanna make the same mistake on Plan B.
Our core beliefs
- We believe in ourselves and each other.
- We believe in equality and fairness. (No matter what your age, race, religion, sexuality, gender, mental or physical health conditions, education or financial situation)
- We believe in the power of Positivity. (Being NICE & KIND with a SMILE to yourself and othere.
- We believe the answers are inside us all.
- We believe we are creative, caring and strong.
- We believe in a life of balance and moderation.
- We believe by educating the world we can eliminate stigma and give people hope.
- We believe NO-ONE should ever feel alone and that no-one cares or understands them.
- We believe by creating a world of positivity we can eliminate poverty, stigma, hate, abuse and inequality.
- We believe no-one has the right to tell us how we should feel. We all have emotions that affect us differently. We are all unique with our own stories.